" PURPOSE "

By Michelle Self​

Scripture:  1 Peter 4: 8-10​

8 Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. 9 Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling. 10 Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.


Yes, the picture above is a heart-shaped hamburger! My life changed drastically when I met my husband. Ours is not the typical love story. We met later in life, he’s 15 years older than I am, he lived in Virginia and I in Ohio, both of us recently divorced, and we fell head-over-heels in love in about one month. Needless to say, it caused others some concern, but we both knew nearly upon introduction that what we saw in each other was different. Special. My intention of bringing Gordon into this article is not to share what a wonderful husband I have (although it is indeed true!), but to share a bit on how God uses each of us to help each other.


I knew very early on that Gordon has a servant’s heart and mind. If I mentioned in passing that I’d love a McDonalds coffee, I would have a hot cup of McDonalds coffee just the way I like it in front of me within minutes, and wouldn’t even know he left. If I shared with him that I needed to go to Walmart or the grocery store, he’d arrange his day off so we could go together. His heart beats harder for others than it does for himself. You see, Gordon’s spiritual gift is service. Mine, on the other hand, is not. But because we are married and spend our free time together, I serve more now than I ever have. He’s helped me see what a blessing serving others is. There’s a reason we have propensities such as these: God gives them to each of us on purpose and for a purpose.


Gordon’s soul is fed when he helps and serves others. But you see, he doesn’t do it to hear the accolades or feel pats on the backs; he serves because that’s His purpose for Gordon. Those accolades he does hear are simply confirmation that he is doing God’s will.


Gordon sent this hamburger from the grill over to me where I was taking orders during a church event. All of the women “awwwww-ed” or rolled their eyes humorously ~ but my heart warmed! I know how blessed I am as a wife. Sure, there are times when I wish I received the loving actions I want at different times (we all have different love languages we give and receive but all love is special!), but more than anything I’m thankful he shares his love gifts with me, no matter what they are! And you know what? God is doing the exact same thing Gordon did for me for all of us every day!! He sends our friends at the just right time, TV commercials that touch our hearts, a beautiful sunrise, that perfect song when we need to hear it, a gifted cup of coffee at the McDonalds drive thru, and maybe even a heart-shaped hamburger.


Watch for the gifts God lays out in front of you each day and when you notice, praise Him 😊 But also be attentive to what God is asking you to do for others, to show others so they also see the gifts He provides for them!


Love each other deeply, not because you do, but because you’re called to. Because when we do what may not make sense. but is right, we know it’s from Him. May you love others the way you were created to love, and may you find a real or proverbial heart-shaped hamburger today! God loves you and He’s right here for you … and He wants you to know it!